Standing In Your Own Power As A Woman

We as woman don't know how much power we have and don't even know how to use it. We get so caught up on trying to be perfect that we tend to forget about ourself and put others first then we lose our power because we don't want to lose that person. We start living in fear because of being alone or allowing what happen in our past to control us. It's so many things that go into why we lose ourself and our power. But I'm here to tell you take control of your power.

Stop Fearing the Unknown

When we fear the unknown you become afraid of the future. Constantly worrying about if our future is going to be great or even being afraid of change.

I've had my own experience with being afraid of change; Don't get me wrong I was never really comfortable but I was afraid to do certain things because of not knowing the out come of it. Seeing something different was scary for me. It was scary because I wanted to feel valued and wanted but I had to want myself first before anyone else could want me. If that makes any sense. A lot of my past trauma did effect me in a negative way.

But in order to stand in your own power you have to stop fearing the unknown and once I realized that I started doing the work to stop fearing it. The Unknown can be so amazing most of the time as long as you're leading yourself in a positive direction and the direction you truly want to go.

Have Expectations

People tell you all the time don't go into anything with expectation. Listen just be realistic about your expectation because you should have expectation. Having expectation is also considered boundaries. Expectation you expect people to treat you well that's realistic. You expect a man to treat you well that is realistic. You don't go into anything with another individual and they're treating you like you don't matter. You expect them to treat you good.

Don't lower your expectation always have high expectations for yourself. Achieve your own individual expectation.

Know Yourself

Confidence is the key of knowing you are. Its Knowing your worth. Valuing yourself. Must admit growing up it took a while to learn these things for myself. I didn't value myself because I didn't think others valued me. It was almost like I was fighting for my life.

I felt like I wasn't worth anything because the most important people around made me feel a certain way about myself. I'm not saying I'm perfect or anything we all have made mistake but most of my mistakes came after already feeling like I wasn't worth anything. When you feel worthless especially at a young age it becomes hard to figure out who you are as a person so you start making a lot of dumb decisions. Which I made some dumb decisions being a lost little girl. I didn't find out who I was until my late 20's. I struggled with a lot of things including confidence.

Don't Apologize When It's Not Necessary

We as woman tend to apologize about how we truly feel which is so stupid cause that gives people the power to walk all over you. You should never give a person that type of power giving a person that type of power automatically makes a person think they can get anything they want out of you. When apologizing to someone make it necessary and not because you afraid someone is going to be mad at you. When I was younger I used to be like this only because I didn't know how to stand in my own power. I didn't know myself and I was seeking approval when being who I was is just fine.

Mean What You Say And Say What You mean

Let me make this clear when I say; Say what you mean and mean what you say look don't bite your tongue for nobody and I mean that whole heartedly. Guys out here lacking but you trying not to hurt they feelings but they hurt your feeling. Say what you mean. I've been this girl not being fully honest on something trying not to hurt someone's feeling. I learned this the hard way. So whatever you say to person mean that shit excuse my language.

Always Choose You

Always choose you means always put yourself first at the end of the day people are always going to choose themselves before they choose you. Put yourself as a priority is a must. We think caring about to someone's well being more than our own will make a person want us more when it actually doesn't it makes us seem clingy and needy to be honest. When you know you in a toxic situation choose you because the toxic situation is not going to get any better.

Explore Your Boundaries

Recognize your limitations. For each person, this appears differently. Some people can take a lot of abuse, while others cannot. It doesn't matter how much crap you can or can't handle at the end of the day because you are an individual. What gets under your skin may or may not get under the skin of others. What you are willing to accomplish without fear does not indicate that everyone is willing to do the same thing without fear. Each of us has our own set of limits. Some of them are relatable, while others aren't.

But don't let your fear of being unusual or sticking out cause you to reduce your standards or limit your own unique enjoyment factor. We are all unique for a purpose, and this is one of them.

Have Confidence In Yourself

It isn't easy, believe me. Clarity brings confidence. What does clarity imply? Everything will be clear! Clarity regarding your likes and dislikes, what you want to do with your life, and your long- and short-term objectives Even if the vision isn't flawless, having clarity on the concept of a vision is what matters.

And you must begin building your confidence foundation when you are young in order to have a truly strong foundation. Yes, this is a part of your responsibility as a parent. Nothing says, "I know who I am, I know my worth, I know my value, and no one is going to convince me otherwise," like a strong personality.